Author: wyldeandfree

Forgiveness: “It’s OK” (but it’s obviously not)

This is part 1 of a three-part mini-series on forgiveness. Here is Part 2 – Forgiveness: What It’s Not, and here’s Part 3 – Forgiveness: What It Is and How to Do It. Friends came round for this weekend for an evening which, happily, included an open fire barbecue in February, leftover wedding mulled wine, games, and staying up far too late discussing amongst other things, forgiveness. Between us we tried to unpick the unruly concept and apply it to real situations in our own lives. As people related some horrible experiences, we wrestled with what forgiveness would look like...

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An Introduction of Sorts

I was having a conversation with Aaron last night and reflecting on it this morning. I had also read an article on “legacy” and what you would want to leave behind for people – your children, say – to remember you by if you died suddenly. These strands came together and I realised that I have something to say. I am really interested in what Aaron and I call “tools for life” – the sort of things you don’t necessarily get taught in school, but that hugely influence how you live your life – from practical things like using a...

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Marriage & Adventure

I’d always planned to go. I didn’t know where or how or when exactly, but long before marriage was on the cards, I planned to board a plane. I knew that there was a thirst inside that was far from satisfied and that one day that would lead to a life packed up in a backpack (or two) and a plane bound for an extraordinary location, for a year, or two, or for life. It took me some time to get there though. Nine years ago, I was graduating from three years of hard emotional work, with a broken heart and...

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Lasting the Difference: Can Friendships Last When People Change?

One interesting thing about being 30, and not 20, is that the choices that we make are actually starting to have an impact on our every day lives. Of course, choices always impact everyday life, but when you’re twenty you can sit around in a pub debating the merits of having children or not having children, pursuing wealth or making a vow of poverty, working for yourself or working for The Man et cetera and at the end of the day you and your mates are are still sitting around in a pub being together, laughing, drinking and thinking....

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